The minister from my home church back in Michigan sent me an email. In part she cited her policy of "not friending on Facebook people who are former members of my church once they've become members somewhere else." She ended the email with, "So I am sorry to tell you this but I am defriending you on Facebook." With a click of a button we were no longer friends. Like a dutiful child not wanting to make waves I wrote her back, "I do understand and thank you for sending me this note." Well, I am not fine, I don't understand and I am very hurt. I feel like a lost little girl looking for Mommies love, once again.
First off, I was never an official member of her church. We had never got our Sundays to line up to make it official. Secondly, I have not become a member of any other church. Her church was where my heart was and I am feeling excommunicated. Even the Catholic church didn't "defriend" me. I was as generous as I could be with her church, to a fault. I even tithed after our schedule changed and we could no longer attend. Furthermore, I finished our pledge after we moved to Mississippi. And just maybe that is where friendships and memberships really end... When the tithe ends.
Years ago a ministers wife was trying to recruit me as a member of her husbands church. I told her that given my background and belief system, I am not welcome in most churches. She told me this story. A young man was on the front church steps crying when Jesus approached him, "What is the matter, my son", Jesus asked. The man told Jesus that he was not welcome in this church. Jesus responded, "Don't worry son, neither am I!"